You hand over some money in a coffee shop, you get a caffeine fix. You make the downpayment on a car, you get a car. You put in the work building a Lego Death Star, you get a Lego Death Star. For most things in life, when you put in the work, you expect some kind of return. It doesn’t have to be big, but most people like to see a tangible result of the effort they put in or the price they pay. The coffee, the car, the Lego Death Star, they’re instantly gratifying because you have them and can see them.
But this kind of return, call it a reward if you like, isn’t happening in our meetings. If it was, our meetings would be gratifying. With a meeting, even if it goes well, the result is rarely that satisfying. It often feels like all we get is more work.